Parenting tip - The ability of our offspring to overcome our inadequacies as nurtures is amazing.

As a soon to be parent or even new parent we tend to start optimistically and this can be a good thing. I mean really if you are someone who can handle being emotionally, intellectually and physically crushed and at the same time being elated, captivated and simply swollen with pride, well, you’re the one for the job. As it turns out most of us can take a good amount of this kind of abuse/reward rotation, Thank God.

As I try to organize my thoughts as to make them easy to follow on paper there must be a hundred ideas going through my head. Things like, what are the most important aspects I would like to convey to you, or what would you most like to hear about. But my mind no longer works this way; it has from years of excessive use of my parenting skills lost its ability to follow a logical path of thought. Most of you long term parents out there will know exactly what I am talking about.

The thought is this, most of us started as mature full grown adults with the abilities of; logical train of thoughts, reasonable organizational skills and the ability to sleep at regular intervals. Have a few kids and you end up like me, that is, to me a train of thought looks like this, the time I get when I have to stop at a train crossing, to look and find MY radio station on my car radio, or it also gives me chance to see if I really did get a chance to do my hair [or was that yesterday] before I left the house. Some times this is not a good thing, simply because if I am already on the road the chances of me going home again to do my hair or to rectify the fact that I put mascara on only one eye are nil, and looking like heck through out the day and knowing you look like heck is two different things.

My organizational skills come in spurts and spats; these are directly connected to whether I have been lucky enough to have a train of thought that day.

Sleeping, my personal favorite, but I am entirely unconvinced that it is necessary. Now this may sound shocking to you but let’s reason this through together. When you first become a parent and often, for women, shortly before you give birth, you start to loose sleep. When this first started to happen I thought to myself that I would never be able to live with only four interrupted hours of sleep a night; however this is not true I have grown used to even less over the years. Of course not sleeping comes at a cost, the personality change comes with a physical and emotional imbalance that the rest of your family will have to get used to, but really, come on, if you can go without sleep they can learn to live with the Jekyll and Hyde you become, right? I personally think that it is the J/H that actually gets the men in our life to participate in a supportive capacity. Simply put we scare the hell out of them!

Now this kind of fear vs. results seems to work well with men, it could be a throw back to the cave man era. As a result if I got enough sleep I would never act in such a way that would scare my husband and therefore never get the results that I do with the J/H scenario.

When I first decided to write about parenting I thought that I would skip the infant stage, just because my youngest is 11 now and thought my memory not being what it was before my six children, would not be up to this challenge. But with a little digging around in the photo albums I am able to come up with a few memories that I hope does my family justice. When my eldest son Chris was born I knew nothing about raising a child, however it seems I was at that point most optimistic about my parenting skills, funny eh. Back then when I did recognize that real parental faux pas had been made, the guilt was overwhelming, soon enough though, with having enough guilt to break my back I learned guilt is only valuable for a short time. Recognize what you don’t want to repeat again, and then get rid of the guilt. Probably this trial and error process was not so funny for my poor child, though he has grown into a fine young man in spite of my flaws. The ability of our offspring to overcome our inadequacies as nurtures is amazing.

About the author:

Bernadette Fielding is a successful author and publisher of  http://www.multiple-strollers.com, Find double strollers, triple or quad, multiple jogging strollers and special needs strollers

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